How do you respond

How do you respond when someone asks a personal rude question. As a mom of twins in today's society of octo-mom, J&K +8, Twins, Twins, and stipulates we are fascinated by twins. I didn't realize how bad it was til becoming a mom of twins myself (triplet moms I don't know how you do it). First off we call our stroller our circus train or freak show because when we are out in public we attract people as if that is what we are a circus or freak show. Besides all the pointing, staring, and talking as if we cant hear them the general public seems to think it is ok to ask whatever they like. I have been asked...

*are they real?
*are you sure they are twins?
*Really two boys?
*are they natural?
*are they IVF?
*do they run in your family?
*in your husbands family?
*are they identical?
*do they have different personalities?
*how can you tell them apart?

How do you respond to that? On top of all the personal questions that random people in target think they can ask they argue with me when I give them an answer. For instance on more than one occasion I have actually answered the questions with truthful answers like "yes twins run in my husbands family but that has nothing to do with our twins because he has nothing to do with my releasing 2 eggs" "the fact that we have boys is my husbands fault but the fact that there are two of them is mine" and people argue with me that I must be wrong and it must be because of Erick. Or when I say "we had help but we were luckier that some and didn't have to go that far into treatments" That is when I get told that I'm lucky I could have had 6 or 8. um no they are crazy and went through IUI/IVF I took a pill for 5 days that is a big difference. And really what kind of babies aren't natural? Why wouldn't my kids have different personalities? What dictionary are people using that they think my boys are identical? Why sense they aren't identical aren't they twins in the eyes of some? Do people really think I wouldn't notice if one of my sons was really a girl I mean there is a big difference in what a penis looks like compared to a vagina? And lastly when did my sex life become anyone but mine and my husbands business?

Really how do you respond to rude intrusive questions?

3 months

So Im a little late in posting this but we had family here. So my babies are three months old. Where has the time gone? My boys are so big. I dont even know how much they weigh but they sure are good eaters (most the time). They are still sleeping really well. Ethan's head control is awesome. Owen is getting there but not so interested in tummy time. Both the boys have such different personalities already. Owen is just like his daddy quiet and reserved unless he really needs something. Ethan is my emotional soul and will melt down if you look at him wrong but he is also my bucket of smiles.

cool new blog for multiples

So I dont know if you noticed the blue square in my blog now. Its a new blog all about multiples and more. Well right now they are having a fundraiser for a really good cause. Click here to check it out

Let the crazyness end

So family was here for a few days to meet the boys and have a fake birthday with Chloe. It was so much fun. We went shopping and out to lunch. My mom and sister got to ride in my new mommy mobile. The boys got all kinds of new clothes. Then we went up to my uncles for even more family goodness. This weekend was alumni weekend and we spent most of it hanging out with Erick's frat brothers most of which we havent seen in a long time. Really it has been a week of showing off the boys. Lets hope for a relaxing week this week.

New found freedom

So I have a new found freedom.... I have a new car. Yesterday Erick, the boys and I went to Pittsburg to look at a used Honda Odyssey. Well when we got there the van we wanted to see had already sold. So in talking with the sales guy we got them to bring a new '09 van to prices we had seen listed for used '08 vans. So after some haggling we left the lot 7 hr later with cranky babies in a bran new 2009 Honda Odyssey in Sterling Gray Metallic. I am very excited for my mommy mobile. Bring on the bumper stickers and the soccer games.

Auntie Amber's photo studio

So when I get bored I set up a mini photo studio in my living room. usually I get a few pic of the boys then they have a meltdown and that is that. On this day I knew my sister was coming with Chloe and left the studio up and had a little fun. Here are a few of the (60 or so) shots I took.

The boys





Chloe








Erick says he is training the boys to be Giants fans so here are 2 pics of the biggest little Giants fans




As you can tell spring has sprung in our house!

what I didnt do anything

That is how I found the boys this morning after they woke up at 7:45. The funny thing is they slept good last night 6:30pm - 2am 2:30-7:45am I think its time for two beds and that makes me sad.